A conversation with a male colleague in the office this week has inspired my this entry. He said: “The starting point for men is that we all cheat. Let any man prove.” Wow!
I realised that this husband and father was not only telling me that he is a cheater, but also that his expectation is for every man to ardently indulge in adultery or concurrent multiple relationships. Whether he meant it as justification for his own unquenchable thirst for skirts or the statement was projected from his experiences with peers, I for one found it far from amusing.
To be fair, men do not cheat single-handedly. Women are equally in the sexual deceitfulness and, like men; they take a share of the pie. Indeed, almost gone are the one-man-one woman days, when couples spent times and did things together. Few such couples remain today. You only have to be party to office conversations, social media or social gatherings to appreciate the moral decay largely perpetuated by the men folk and, to a lesser extent, some women. I maybe wrong, but I get the impression that men seem to want to embrace infidelity at whatever cost and in whatever way.
Conversations among well-educated men with supposed integrity who are also widely travelled, exposed, don flashy designer suits and boasting reasonable IQs, are dominated by talks of newly-acquired girl friends (aka MG2s) or those women who leave them sleepless at night and can’t wait to see them beyond their clothes. On the other hand—and, again, I may be wrong—single women in search of economic getaways and support will settle for any man, including married or committed “ma hope”. Unremorseful, like menacing hyenas, they gear up targeting fat wallets in town.
Married women may also cheat on the rebound to avenge their men’s escapades. Some do it out of addiction, boredom or as a favourite past-time, among a thousand reasons that cannot be laid down here. But leaving aside the moral question, cheating obviously is an act that continues to erode the noble marriage institution, contaminates otherwise beautiful relationships, spoils futures and encourages living lies.
The aftermath of such escapades include love children, sexually transmitted infections, depression suicide or unprecedented outcomes that leave devastations in its path such as with children, spouses, extended families and work places. The disgrace or impact of actions done in private affect more than the two people who initially decided to experiment, failed to hold their ravaging emotions together or avenge a cheating spouse.
There is no satisfaction in bragging about the many skirts a man has conquered or the many wallets a woman has depleted with her charm. The fact that it is all done in secret and without freedom is indicative of an anomaly. Let your conscious convict.
